tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5736556300599496415.post1725777411981547575..comments2023-09-15T08:20:32.589-05:00Comments on semi-fertile....: story telling (and your opinion, please)wifeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15488549394090924411noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5736556300599496415.post-74473618711784475902009-08-23T02:55:18.333-05:002009-08-23T02:55:18.333-05:00I think you should do what feels right for you. Th...I think you should do what feels right for you. This is the last part of your dream, the one you can control. The one you can make happen, no matter what. I understand why you want to build the best nursery just as you planned. <br /><br />Sounds like you and hubby just got into a stupid fight because it is one of those situations where all the underlying pain of RPL comes to the surface. I'm sure you'll work it out (hugs)Andiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10173628683150350210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5736556300599496415.post-31159600305087363472009-08-20T10:29:34.787-05:002009-08-20T10:29:34.787-05:00I say go for the good stuff!!!
I can understand ho...I say go for the good stuff!!!<br />I can understand how you feel. When you do get that child (however you get it) you will be spending lots of time in the nursery and I think it should be a place that you are happy and comfortable in. It's only my own opinion but I would be resentful if I couldn't have things that were just for my child (never used before). Just me. <br />I think you should get the things for a beautiful nursery that you want, obviously within reason.flmgodoghttp://sugardonor.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5736556300599496415.post-82396668992694446922009-08-19T20:58:53.941-05:002009-08-19T20:58:53.941-05:00I have two opinions. We got as much as we could o...I have two opinions. We got as much as we could of gently used stuff, but also got lots of new things. (New crib, glider rocker, swing, toys.) While I think there's something to be said for being practical, I think your situation is different. You should do whatever you need to do in order to feel like you're getting the experience. In essence, you got cheated out of something that most women are able to experience, and if shopping and making the perfect nursery will make you feel like you go more of the "experience" then I say go for it!LuckyOncehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07778768854314345726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5736556300599496415.post-91273806042219155092009-08-19T17:47:58.655-05:002009-08-19T17:47:58.655-05:00I think you can still get your sweet-ass nursery e...I think you can still get your sweet-ass nursery even with gently used items. I'd tell hubby that you are OK with used or hand me downs if you absolutely LOVE the item. If you don't love it, don't take it. I think you are right to not give up the last part of your dream.Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07318827219058451652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5736556300599496415.post-35835747826829520492009-08-19T13:48:55.832-05:002009-08-19T13:48:55.832-05:00I agree that you shouldn't sacrifice quality a...I agree that you shouldn't sacrifice quality and definitely safety for finances. I would guess you could get a lot of baby clothes at second hand shops, but cribs and car seats are things you will use for months/years so I would rather get brand new ones that weren't drooled on by other kids. I have a germ issue. At least you can wash the crap out of second hand clothes. Plus I would imagine babies grow at such a rate that they never wear out their onesies. <br /><br />Where are you in the adoption process? Are you close to being selected? I guess I just wonder how urgently you need the nursery ready.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02338130051182407335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5736556300599496415.post-43988200590204748982009-08-19T11:32:44.471-05:002009-08-19T11:32:44.471-05:00I agree with the previous posts. Might as well ge...I agree with the previous posts. Might as well get the good stuff (and REALLY cute stuff) so they last! <br /><br />Maybe y'all can start doing some looking at some nice consignment shops or craigs list (just to show the dear hubby that you are looking for cheaper nice furniture). Explain to him that you are not willing to compromise on quality because the last thing you want is your baby to be in a crib that is falling apart.<br /><br />Another idea/compromise would be if you knew someone with really nice/gently used baby furniture maybe you could refinish it. Or maybe another compromise could be that y'all buy certain items brand new (and really nice), but refinish hand me downs to match.<br /><br />I just know that my husband usually agrees with me when he "feels" as though we are compromising ;)<br /><br />Good luck with the nursey, can't wait to see how it turns out!!Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10857898428509239152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5736556300599496415.post-27738672484874619102009-08-19T07:48:58.828-05:002009-08-19T07:48:58.828-05:00I agree with Jess. You could get cheap stuff, but ...I agree with Jess. You could get cheap stuff, but you will probably have to replace it a few times. <br />Although... maybe a hand me down from a very rich aunt or something? That could be nice! Perhaps a compromise where you will agree to look at the secondhand furniture but you won't make promises about liking it...cheryllookingforwardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04558612718225988674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5736556300599496415.post-50878837127392289122009-08-19T00:53:19.296-05:002009-08-19T00:53:19.296-05:00I'm with you all the way...do not skimp on you...I'm with you all the way...do not skimp on your baby furniture! If you plan on adopting more than one, then you will want good quality furniture that will last through multiple children. If one baby is all your adopting, then you will want good quality furniture that will grow with your child. Either way...you need quality furniture. And like you said, your already going into debt, so what is a little more money spent! <br /><br />Your story sounds like mine. I felt like you were talking about me except for the adoption part...were not there yet. <br /><br />babyparamore.blogspot.comJesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13326718619587232436noreply@blogger.com