Thursday, July 2, 2009

Operation No Regrets: revised

Yesterday was an absolutely incredible day. Out of the blue, we got a phone call that an attorney friend of the family, who happens to handle adoptions, had a 3 day old baby he needed to place. Hubby and I were ready to jump at the chance to be parents. We were thrilled, literally shaking with anticipation, at the thought that we might have a chance. Our minds ran to the gazillion things that needed to be done around the house. We knew, of course, that it was a long shot, since we haven't had a home study done yet. And, as it turns out, our anticipation was both premature and short lived.

This baby who needed a home actually had four couples interested in becoming parents. And of course, these four all had completed home studies. Once again, hopes dashed. Of course, it wasn't an unexpected turn of events, but the disappointment still stung. However, Hubby and I had any and all doubts/fears that we might have had about adoption completely erased: the excitement we felt at the prospect! the willingness to do whatever it might take to be approved! the feeling of wondering WHEN we could become parents, as opposed to IF!

We've decided to pursue adoption. As in, attending some meetings next month to get the home study ball rolling. Figuring out who we can beg, borrow and steal from to meet our expected expenses. We're going for it. I have not felt this upbeat for a long long time. We know the process might take longer than we'd like, and the road will be paved with frustrations, but we've become experts at dealing with frustrations.

We'll also be starting clomid next month. It seems a little crazy to be actively trying to conceive while starting the adoption process, but it feels right. It just feels right. I mean, me getting pregnant and staying pregnant is such a long shot at this point, but I feel like I should give the assisted ovulation aspect a try. Why should that stop me from trying another avenue toward parenthood as well? The agency we'd like to work with does not have any restrictions regarding ttc for infertiles, so why not?

Hubby and I have always discussed adding to our family through adoption, even before my many miscarriages and issues came to light. We just thought we'd have bio kids first. I'm okay with it not happening that way. I just want to be a mom.

So Operation No Regrets is in full effect, with a twist. And I'm beyond thrilled. I did, however, indulge in some wine last Saturday night, and I may this Saturday as well. If you can't indulge when your sixth dead baby like entity is slowly leaking out of you, when can you?


  1. Whoohoo for operation no regrets...and give'r with the wine! I'm really happy you're so excited about adoption. I'm not sure if you read Yaya's blog (, but she just went through home study and is now waiting for a child to adopt. She has lots of posts about her homestudy process and is always happy to answer readers questions. So check her blog out if you haven't already :)

  2. That is wonderful news. Good luck, good luck, good luck :) I only wish the process had less restrictions and was simpler in Australia.

    Don't you dare feel guilty about that wine! :)

  3. I'm so happy to hear you so excited about the prospect of adoption. The miscarriage is so gut-wrenching to begin with (literally and figuratively,) that it's nice that you have something wonderful and happy to focus on. Wishing you all the best for luck both with the Clomid and the adoption process. (I'm taking a ride on the Clomid rollercoaster next cycle too. Should be interesting.)